While the Cool Girl falsely believes she has the control over the men because she can make them want her, in reality, the Cool Girl is powerless. Growing up, I was always hyperconscious of the Cool Girl in the room. She was the one playing down her intelligence, wearing a sports jersey the day after the big winning game and smiling while ordering the fattest slice of anything our school cafeteria offered. This girl always bothered me. Of course, I tried to be the Cool Girl.
Recently a friend ran into a woman we all knew in our twenties as a so-called "Cool Girl. Down to earth, even. I realized then what I had always suspected: The Cool Girl has an expiration date, and it is round about your thirties, when you either simply grow up by virtue of existing a few years more on earth, or realize it is hella tiresome to keep pretending you don't have any feelings or long-term goals to be desirable to a certain breed of dude. Let me be clear, though: Liking beers, hot dogs, sports, partying, and having a general allergy to feelings or Anything Too Serious is not the province of straight men in reality. Anyone can play this game. Plenty of women genuinely love many of these things, myself included. But generally speaking, it is the cultural province and conditioning of straight men.